T is for…

Transferential potential is a phrase I used (idiolect) in thinking about the relative quantities (and qualities) of energy bound up in psychological knots and situational difficulties. The greater the resistance the greater possibility of change. The more difficult the more (or finer) energy its resolution makes available. This was part of the framing that served me very well when dealing with the discovery, as a young parent, that I had advanced lymphatic cancer.

Not that the difficulty is good or suffering useful rather, while one would prefer to turn lead into gold sometimes instead of lead you have to transform shit. It is not desirable or pleasant but it can be useful and when successful delivers gold of the highest quality.

Or as I told my friend Nicole when she discovered herself in a similar situation — “you’ve got to make the circumstances pay”.

see Transference